The Tabooed Question

The following question would not be one that would be acceptable in our society. It would be a tabooed one. Even to understand what I really am asking, would need a great amount of openness and freethinking.

I believe that even if no one wants to ask or answer this question, all of us have had this question in our minds and none of us would ever be able to answer it.

My question is, what actually is sexual possessiveness and where does it come from? I mean no person would ever accept his partner sleeping with someone else. Even I wont. But why? Why does there has to be a one man and one woman? To create order? Why cant there be a man and a woman who just want to have sex, and another man for the same woman who wants to have sex and have children and raise them too? Why after a certain period of being into a relationship, does the body which was a body some other woman or other man, suddenly becomes ours to claim and control?

Why do girlfriends have to know everything about you? Why, for that matter, do friends have to know everything about you? Why cant there be a friend who knows about your personal life, a friend who knows about your professional life, and another one who knows about your sex life and maybe no one who know about you spiritual life? Why in every relationship that is just going great, possessiveness has to creep in to destroy it?

This has always been my problem I guess. Its not that I cannot make friends, its just that I cannot keep friends for long.

All of my friends, after a certain period of time, start to think that they owe me. They start to order me to do things and not ask me to do them. That is what I hate and stop seeing them anymore. That’s why I keep on making new friends and get away from them just before they owe me. I love to be free. Not controlled like my father does. I have escaped to Pune in order to get away from the ownership, control and management of my father. But anywhere I go, people always try to have the same rights over me as if they are my property.

The same has been the problem with all of my girlfriends. Why cant girls be partners and be completely different individuals? Why do they always have to be at one with their boyfriends? I mean, I have a life of my own that maybe I want to live my way. I may not want to share everything with you for gods sake. But they don’t just get the point and they break up.

The world would be such an organized and planned out place only if this obligation and possession part was removed from relationships.